Curiosity #9 Never Admire Quietly

🎤 Quotable quotes: “If I admire something about someone, I tell them. We humans are so fragile. It's important we give people their flowers while they are still here. Never admire quietly.” – Chimamanda Adichie

📰 Let's start with this week's leadership musings by Marnie Stockman & Nick Coniglio

Never Admire Quietly (Ted Would Approve)

If there’s one thing Ted Lasso knows how to do (besides making biscuits), it’s spreading genuine encouragement. Whether it’s complimenting Dani Rojas’s smile or letting Nate know he’s got greatness in him (even before Nate knows it himself), Ted makes it clear: if you see something wonderful in someone, say it.

Now here’s the thing: most of us don’t. We think it (and maybe we’ll smile to ourselves about it), but we keep those words locked up tight like they’re a secret recipe. Why? Maybe we assume they already know. Maybe we’re afraid it’ll come out weird. Or maybe we’re just too busy (spoiler alert: we’re not that busy).

But here’s the truth—those words could be exactly what someone needs to hear. People are fragile, as Adichie reminds us. Life is short, and the difference between a fleeting thought and a spoken word can be monumental. A compliment doesn’t just make someone feel good in the moment—it’s like planting a seed that could grow into a garden of confidence, self-worth, and connection.

Think of it this way: giving someone their flowers now (figuratively, but hey, literal flowers are great too!) isn’t just nice; it’s leadership. Leaders elevate others. They make people feel seen and valued. They shine a light on what’s working, even when the world can feel heavy.

So, in true Lasso fashion, here’s a challenge: this week, don’t let your admiration go unspoken. Tell your team member you’re amazed by how they handled that tough situation. Text your friend about how their kindness inspires you. Drop a note to your old mentor and tell them the impact they had on your life.

And if you’re worried about sounding awkward? Just remember: awkward sincerity is 100% better than polished indifference. (Plus, Ted would totally high-five you for trying.)

🎯 Challenge: Let’s take this from theory to action. Today, pick one person you admire (professionally, personally, or even casually) and let them know. A compliment, a thank-you, or a quick note will do the trick. You’ve got this!

More leadership musings

As you step forward this week, remember: impactful leadership is rooted in recognizing and uplifting others. Admiration, when expressed, has the power to transform relationships and inspire growth.

🍪 Biscuits with the Boss: If you could give a heartfelt thank-you to one person who has influenced your life—past or present—who would it be, and what would you say?

Reflecting on those who’ve shaped us helps us see the power of recognition. Sharing this question with your team or loved ones could spark meaningful conversations (and maybe even some happy tears).

🏅Whistle. Whistle. Roy Kent rarely has an issue speaking his mind - so let's think about he might approach it...

Don’t wait, just say it. People deserve to hear they’re bloody brilliant while they’re still around to hear it.

📚Beard’s collection: Recommended books and articles

📖 Stone, Douglas, and Heen, Sheila. Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback. Penguin Books, 2015.

While focused on receiving feedback, this book also sheds light on the importance of giving thoughtful, affirming feedback that uplifts and motivates. Stone and Heen offer a practical guide to expressing admiration in ways that resonate and stick.

📖 Stone Zander, Rosamund, and Zander, Benjamin. The Art of Possibility: Transforming Professional and Personal Life. Penguin Books, 2002.

Stone Zander and Zander look to reframe their perspectives and find possibilities in every situation. One of its standout concepts, “Giving an A,” is all about seeing and acknowledging the best in others, making it a perfect fit for the topic of admiration and recognition.

📖 Lencioni, Patrick. The Five Dysfunctions of a Team: A Leadership Fable. Jossey-Bass, 2002.

Lencioni highlights how trust and recognition build the foundation of great teams. His lessons on fostering vulnerability and appreciation can inspire leaders to express admiration in a way that strengthens relationships and improves team dynamics.

🌎 This week in Here - There - Every F’ing where 

As we come off of Thanksgiving, we wanted to take a minute to thank everyone that has gotten in touch with us on social, via email and of course reviewing our content on platforms like Amazon and Goodreads.  We are truly humbled and feel fortunate to have met so many new people during this endeavor.

Barbecue Sauce!

Marnie and Nick

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