Curiosity #64 - The Art of Making People Feel Welcome

🎤 Quotable quotes: “To the family we're born with, and the family we make along the way. And, most importantly, to Richmond"

— Higgins

If there were a patron saint of holiday gatherings in Ted Lasso, it would be Leslie Higgins.

In The Carol of the Bells, we see it clearly. Higgins opens his home. The table fills up. Players, coaches, partners, and plus-ones gather around, many of them far from home. It is not fancy. It is not perfect. But it is warm. It is intentional. And everyone belongs.

Ted may be the heart of AFC Richmond, but Higgins is often the host. The quiet architect of comfort. The one who understands that gathering is not about impressing people. It is about making them feel safe enough to exhale.

Which makes this a perfect time of year to talk about the art of gathering.

🏟 Why This Matters for You

At its best, gathering is not about the menu, the decor, or whether the house looks like a magazine spread. It is about how people feel the moment they walk in and how they feel when they leave.

Higgins gets this instinctively. He does not host to be noticed. He hosts to make room. His leadership shows up not in speeches, but in chairs pulled closer, extra plates on the table, and a genuine sense that no one is a burden for being there.

Ted does this too, just in his own way. He welcomes people with curiosity, humor, and kindness. Together, Ted and Higgins show us that the best gatherings feel less like performances and more like conversations.

Here are a few lessons they teach us about gathering well.

1. Set the tone early.
The first moments matter. A smile, a warm greeting, a simple “we’re glad you’re here” tells people everything they need to know.

2. Make room for everyone.
Higgins notices who might feel out of place and quietly fixes it. Great gatherings are not about spotlighting the loudest voice. They are about making sure no one feels invisible.

3. Be more interested than impressive.
Ted asks questions. Higgins listens. Neither is trying to win the room. That is why people trust them.

4. Lower the bar.
Perfection kills connection. Higgins’ table is full of mismatched people and imperfect moments. That is exactly what makes it work.

5. Leave people better than you found them.
Whether it is a locker room, a dinner table, or a living room, the goal is the same. Make people feel seen, valued, and a little more at home in the world.

The art of gathering is really the art of belonging. And during the holidays, when emotions run high and expectations creep in, that art matters more than ever.

People may forget what you served.
They will remember how welcome they felt.

🫶 Stay curious,
— Nick & Marnie
Your tea sipping, table setting, everyone’s-welcome friends

More leadership musings

🍪 Biscuits with the Boss: 

Icebreaker time:

As you head into holiday gatherings, ask yourself this:
What is one small thing you can do to help someone feel comfortable the moment they arrive?

Bonus Higgins version:
Who might need an extra seat at the table this season?

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🌎 This week in Here - There - Every F’ing where 

We wrapped up Season 3 of our Lead it Like Lasso Podcast this week. We had our friend (and real life Ted Lasso) Lee M.J. Elias join us! (If Ted Lasso Season 4 parallels Lee's life, we are in good shape). Give it a listen!

Believe! 

Nick & Marnie

P.S. The holidays are coming! We are very thankful to everyone who is gifting Lead it Like Lasso. On our wish list for Christmas is a 5-star review on Amazon ;) (if we are on your nice list).